Below are the files I put together from what I did for my son. I have had a few others ask me for this stuff and so I am making it available. Please feel free to read it through and adjust some aspects of it to fit what you want to do with your son. I have tried to explain my thought process but if you have any questions please do not hesitate to let me know. I hope that these are helpful to you. If any of you takes things to the next level please let me know. I would love to learn from what you put together.
The Standard of a Man E-Book. This is the E-Book version of what I gave to my son just jazzed up a bit for your eyes as read through it. Download it HERE.
The Standard of a Man Gift Book. This version is the same content as the E-Book but in an 11 x 8 1/2 PDF. This is the actual one that I printed out and gave to my son. Download it HERE.
Development Guide. This is a great resource for anyone looking to do this with their son. Before each section of the content I added some information that will help explain where my head was as I was putting that particular section together. I think this is most likely the most valuable piece for many fathers. There is a lot of helpful information throughout it that will help tie the pieces together. Download it HERE.
Full Page Definition. This is the page that I mentioned before. I printed this out, cut it down a bit, and framed it in an 8×10 frame. I put one next to my sons bed and one next to mine. I hope it will help remind us both to live accordingly and help him see that I am pursuing this same definition. WHITE and OLD
Code of Conduct Page. This is a one page printout of the characteristics contained in the code of conduct. I am currently not using this but may in the future as my son grows. WHITE and OLD
Transcendent Cause Page. This is a quick summary of the main points that play out in what I have chosen to live for and what I am going put before my son. I will be using this for sure in the future. Feel Free to use it. WHITE and OLD
Love for a Woman Page. Notice it the love for a woman not of a woman. That is crucial. A summary of the section in the main document on one page. Be creative, it could be used in a ton of ways. WHITE and OLD
Meaning of the Standard Page. This is a quick explanation of the crest that is on the cover of and throughout the document. It is the same content that is at the end of the other documents just in a separate file. I have thought about framing the crest in the future with this by its side in a double 8×10 frame. Just a thought. WHITE and OLD
Enlistment of Service Contract. This is that single page in a separate document. I used this to print multiple copies and handed them to 8 men that make up the community of men around my son. This is the most significant file of the one page documents. There is room at the bottom for a personal note as well if anyone should desire it. WHITE and OLD
Ceremony Worksheet. In the document I listed 5 ceremonies that I want to use as my son grows up. I understand that not all fathers will use the same 5 or may use more. I prepared a simple worksheet that might help as you work through what those ceremonies are and how they will go. I choose five major ones, but there will be numerous smaller events, this worksheet contains what I considered to be the basic framework to make it happen. WHITE and OLD
I am convinced that if I am able to pull even a portion of this off in my son’s life, I will make a huge impact in his future. If anyone else might be able to benefit from what I have been learning that they would be able to. I am still learning however and if anyone would like to interact with this to make it better I would welcome it greatly.
Thank you for the opportunity to invest in you as well as your family. If you make any adjustments to what I have put forward and would like to share them with the rest of the fathers who interact here, please let me know.