The Conquest of Fear

We think of courage at times as this thing that young boys have as they try to skate board of the roof into the pool. They might make it or not but what courage they have. Rubbish. Let’s look at what courage is really and how it plays out in our lives. Yes, I said our. You do not need to be on the front lines of combat or in the X-games to have or show courage.

Understanding what is consistent with a man of courage is of utmost importance. Are you ready for this – FEAR. Without fear you are neither brave nor courageous. You are foolish. Fear plays a healthy part in our lives. It can be a deterrent to keep us from making very large mistakes, but many times the fear that paralyzes us is not that fear. It is a fear that can be beaten, overcome. We just have to know how. That is where the courage comes in.

While we all agree that men of courage are hard to come by now one wants to be labeled the opposite. “The absence of Courage is a fault that few are willing to confess.” We all understand that we want courage but how do we grasp it, how does it become part of us? To do so we must understand its relation to the one thing that is consistent in all men and is always present with the one those full of courage.

“Courage is not in the absence of fear but in the conquest of it.”

Understand this – “The brave man is intelligent, he faces danger because he understands it and is prepared to meet it.” You see courage is not some blind foolishness, it is the tried and trained preparation that accompanies the one who has an intelligent grasp on the dangers that could befall him. This then leads way to conquer that fear with courage through the preparation.

We can not fall into this mess of life where we think and believe that having courage is doing something that others are too scared to do. To have true courage means that you have studied, prepared and then with complete understand of not only the risks but also the rewards. Have weighed the fear and found it wanting on a scale against something of higher value, whether that value be moral, monetary or of the feminine persuasion. 🙂

So lets be honest with the world for  a second. Have you ever truly studied a risk, weighed it and found it wanting? Have you understood the danger and in its face stood strong, moved forward to see it conquered and then held in your hand that glorious destiny that allows you to be mentioned among the few. Among those that we look up at in legend an myth who have such courage.

Are you brave? Are you courageous? Are you truly heroic?

Start small. in what ways can you make a small step to conquer fear in your life today?

(All Quotes from Sermons to Young Men by Henery Van Dyke)

The Best Question Ever.

I came across a book I read a while back by Andy Stanely and remember it being fantastic! Here is my basic outline of the book but there is so much more in the book that he unpacks so I suggest reading the book in its entirety.


The Best Question Ever 

The Question: What is the wise thing to do?

The Reference points: Past, Present, Future

  • Past – In light of my past experiences, what is the wise thing to do?
  • Present – In light of my current circumstances, what is the wise thing to do?
  • Future – In light of my future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing to do?

In light of my past experiences, my current circumstances, and my future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing to do?

Applied: Financially, Relationally, Morally, Professionally, Spiritually,

Three Main Avenues: Time, Finances, Morals

Time – 5 Truths

  1. There is a cumulative value to investing small amounts of time in certain activities over a long period of time.
  2. There are rarely any immediate consequences for neglecting single installments of time in any arena of life.
  3. Neglect has a cumulative effect.
  4. There is no cumulative value to the urgent things that we allow to interfere with the important things.
  5. In the critical arenas of life, you cannot make up for lost time.

Finances – 5 places money goes when I get paid

  1. Spend it
  2. Repay debt
  3. Pay taxes
  4. Save it
  5. Give it

Goal is to flip the order of these 5 categories with our finances.

  1. Give it
  2. Save it
  3. Pay Taxes
  4. Repay debt
  5. Spend it

Morality – New Fences!

  • Every poor moral decision is prefaced by a series of unwise choices.
  • Take extreme measures in extreme circumstances.

WIsdom in Counsel

  • It is next to impossible to discern the voice of wisdom when our emotions are raging.
  • When you do not know what the wise thing to do is….do nothing! When wise people bump up against their limitations, they stop and ask for help.
  • They know what they don’t know, and they make sure they know someone who does.
  • You will never reach your full potential without help and advice from the outside.
  • “The Fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom” (Prov. 9:10) – here “fear” is referring to – recognition and reverence that leads to submission.
  • The beginning of wisdom is the recognition of and submission to the One who designed things to work the way things work.

Give Us Men

A friend at my church showed me this poem by Josiah Gilbert Holland. I loved it and wanted to share it with all of you. Enjoy.


Give us men!

Men – from every rank,

Fresh and free and frank;

Men of thought and reading,

Men of light and leading,

Men of loyal breeding,

The nation’s welfare speeding;

Men of faith and not of fiction,

Men of lofty aim in action;

Give us Men – O say again,

Give us Men!

Give us Men!

Strong and stalwart ones;

Men whom purest honor fires,

Men who trample self beneath them,

Men who make their country wreath them

As their noble sons;

Worthy of their sires;

Men who never shame their mothers,

Men who never fail their brothers,

True, however false are others;

Give us Men – I say again,

Give us Men!

Give us Men!

Men who, wen tempest gathers,

Grasp the standard of their fathers

In the thickest fight;

Men who strike for home and alter,

(Let the coward cringe and falter),

God defend the right!

True as truth the lorn and lonely,

Tender, as the brave are only;

Men who tread where saints have trod,

Men for Country, Home – and God;

Give us Men! I say again – again,

Give us Men!

Right Against Might

“Will you do nothing to put down the evil side of that foolish proverb, “Nothing succeeds like success!” Bread success in its own den, fight the most popular evils, espouse the poorest and the weakest causes, if you believe that they are inspired by one element of right. It takes a strong man to stand alone. It is only a man here and there that can raise a tune, almost everybody tries to have a mumble after it is raised. But stand alone, young friend; stand alone, poor man; stand with the right. We are in the minority, but we are in the minority of God. I do not believe in majorities, popularly so called. I believe men should be weighted as much as numbered. I would rather have the support of one man of a certain kind, than the support of ten thousand of a kind directly opposite.”

Joseph Parker, D.D.