This is one of those sad but true things that happen when you become a leader. Leadership can be lonely and at times you feel as if you are completely alone. When this happens what do you do? Where do you turn? The answers to these question make a huge difference.
Why are Loneliness and Leadership connected?
There are a few main reasons that this seems to be a pattern. I know there may be more but these few are consistent.
- Leaders accept responsibility. Has a leader you carry a load that others do not and therefore they do not understand the weight of that responsibility or the drive that you have to carry through with it.
- Leaders raise the bar. The standard is higher for those who lead. This seems to be consistent across most professions. When the standard becomes more intense you will quickly see the multitudes drop away. The masses are not willing to engage at a high level of accountability and self-improvement.
- Leaders are in front of the pack. This is probably obvious but if there were more people up near the leader we would call that the pack. Leaders are in front of the pack. By definition there are fewer people at that location.
Why does this matter?
Whenever we get discouraged as leaders we immediately look around for someone to understand, someone who is a comrade. At this point, we each look somewhere to gain encouragement, perspective or comfort. Where do you turn? I sometimes turn to God. But many times I just need a fellow leader to talk to, someone who understands what I am going through.
The fact is that there may not be someone in your corner who you can turn to. You may not have a comrade in your field. If this is the case for you I want you to know there are other leaders who want to help.
If you are at the beginning of this journey and want to grow as a leader, know that this is coming.
So when you get discouraged as a leader and look around for a comrade and see no one. Look here. I may have never gone through what you are going through but as a leader I want to help. Let me know if I can help. I want you to know you are NOT alone. There are more people around then you think, you just might have to look a little harder.